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Adoption, the Incredible Act of Love

Pregnancy … It's a word that can mean great joy or great despair.

Women struggling to fall pregnant or reaching the latter years of their child-bearing age often consider the irony of having spent so many years in their youth avoiding getting pregnant, only to spend an equivalent number of years, and often a lot of money later on, trying to become pregnant.

But facing an unplanned or unplanned pregnancy can be difficult and emotional. If you're pregnant, there are a lot of things to consider during this time and arming yourself with information about your options is the first step in empowering yourself to make an informed and well thought out decision regarding your unplanned pregnancy.

The best thing you could do, for both you and your child, is to make an informed decision. An informed decision means that you have studied all your options, understand the consequences of each decision, analysed your and your child's wellbeing, and made a choice that reflects what you've learned and discovered about yourself, your situation, and your needs.

The test is positive

So the home pregnancy kit has confirmed your worst fears. While you love children and want to be a mom someday, the timing couldn't be worse. You haven't completed your studies yet and you don't have the financial resources to support a child. Your boyfriend feels the same way. He wasn't planning to be a father before he had a stable job and was well on his way in his chosen career. What can you do and who can help you make the right decision?

Many social workers, psychologists, doctors and members of the clergy are trained in option counselling. Some aren't. At this crucial point in your life, it would be very helpful to talk to someone who can clearly explain your options and what the emotional, physical and financial consequences are, both short-term and long-term. Someone to talk to who will be objective, consider your needs and who will not judge you on your choices is crucial.

A counsellor may share with you that your options include:

  • Parenting the child.
  • Foster care.
  • Adoption.
  • Abortion.

You are not alone

Women have been experiencing what can be termed unplanned pregnancies for thousands of years. While the emotions associated with such a situation may not have changed much in all this time, the available options and the structures that exist to support a woman's choices have.

A study looking at pregnancy rates amongst school-going learners showed that in 2008, 6.3% of all female learners in South Africa were registered as pregnant. So many young women are faced with this difficult situation each year and are not aware that they have access to someone who can guide them through their options to find a situation that is right for her.

Giving Life

If you are facing a unplanned pregnancy, have considered all your options under the guidance and with the compassion of a counsellor, and have decided to make your child available for adoption, speak to us regarding important advice and insight into what this loving choice will mean for you and your partner, your child and the people who will finally be able to complete their family.

If you are thinking about adoption, either facing a unplanned pregnancy or wanting to adopt a child, you should be aware that a wide range of resources are available to offer expert assistance and guidance around the different parts of the process.